A Hard Question

Until Jonathan I thought the question, "How many children do you have?" was just an innocent question that one would use to get to know you better or to catch up. Everytime I am faced with that question part of my soul freezes; it is hard to always know how to answer that question. There are so many variables that come into play when someone asks. They also don't mean to inflict pain upon you, it is meant to be an innocent question. I don't know that this question will ever get easier to answer, because my reponse to most people is 1, a daughter. Part of me then feels as though I am not cherishing my son's memory, but I also remind myself that it is very personal, and no matter what I tell people, I am always cherishing him. Sometimes it is not for others to see into my heart at that time. Anyone that knows me well knows, and they support me, and that is all that matters.
I know I have not posted much lately, I am still trying to find "Up"... I also know that will take time, and everyday that I am trying is a good day.